Are You Who You Want to Be?

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This morning's blog post is about identity crisis.  Today, I want to speak to anyone out there desiring a change.  Are there any of you out there that look in the mirror and see a difference between the person you are and the person you want to be?  I've been there.  My question to you is what are you going to do about it?  Seriously, think about it.   What are the changes you want to see in your life and what are you going to do to get there?  Someone once told me if you don't have a plan, you plan to fail.  Now, I know we can't always trust our own plans...God usually has way different plans than we do.  And we definitely can't accomplish too much by our own strength.  We will go way further when we are relying on Jesus to pull us through.  But on a practical level, there are certain action steps we can be taking to see change in our lives.  Here are some things I have learned along the way in my own battle with this: 1.  Recognize your hindrances

What are the things in your life that are holding you back?  Where can you avoid temptations that always seem to keep you trapped?  It could be your environment.  If you struggle with drinking, hanging out at a bar may not be your best option.  If you struggle with eating, maybe you need to take a different route so that you avoid driving by Mcdonalds on your way home from work.  It could be the people you hang out with.  Take an honest look at yourself.  If you find that you are consistently being influenced in a negative fashion by the people you surround yourself with, you may need time apart from those relationships.  Sometimes when we are stuck, instead of spending time with people that are going to challenge us to be different, we end up spending all of our time with people that are just as stuck as we are.  It's comfortable and it's familiar, but if you never break away you might just find yourself stuck in that place for years.  It's hard to leave our comfort zones, but I guess the question is how long do you want to stay stuck?  Are you willing to stay right where you are at the risk of never becoming anything better?

2.  Recognize your motivators What are the things that propel you to move forward?  Put yourself in environments that encourage you.  Put yourself around people who challenge you, who don't necessarily tell you what you want to hear, but rather what you need to hear.  Choose to think positively.

3.  Set goals

Set goals that are measurable.  So for instance, if you want to be healthier or lose weight, you would set goals like "I'm going to drink 8 cups of water a day," or, "I'm going to work out three times a week."  With concrete goals, you can tell whether you are hitting it or missing the mark.  Then you can make practical changes and adjustments.  If I just say my goal is to be healtheir, that's wonderful, but what does that actually mean?  What does that actually look like?  With goals that are measurable you are able to track your progress and progress is what we are looking for.  It helps to use a series of small and achievable goals and to build from there, because it's going to be a process.

4.  Don't keep doing the same things and expecting a different result We all do this.  We talk about all the changes we want to make, the person we want to become and the difference we want to see, but we do the same things over and over again.  We repeat the same routines and we already know where it leads...no change.  If you want to be something different, you need to do something different.

5.  Don't let the fear of failure keep you from trying We are all plagued by this fear of failure.  What if I try and I fail?  It would be best not even to try at all.  NO NO NO.  Don't even go there with yourself.  You just might fail.  You might fail alot.  But you know what you are going to do?  You are going to dust yourself off and try again.  The next time you'll get a little closer to reaching your goal and eventually you are going to get it right. 6.  Start Now

Don't put it off one day longer!  Time is ticking away.  Seize the day and make the most of every moment you have.  You won't regret it!  And just remember that even though the journey will be hard, Jesus has all the strength that you need.

But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." 2 Cor. 12:9